A few Sunday’s ago while at church I heard God saying, “STOP THE BLAME GAME!”
The blame game is a dangerous game we humans play to blame our life and circumstances on a myriad of things. Some things that come to mind are ex spouses, ex boyfriend/girlfriend, bosses, teachers, the economy, parents, your age or gender or race.
This is a very familiar pattern for us humans. Genesis 3:10-13 (NKJV) says,
So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?” Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
From the beginning people blamed something or someone else for the mess they were in. Today we are no different, unless we grab onto the truth God has for us!
God has given us many keys on how to walk away from the blame game. Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV) says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
The KEY to stopping the blame game is forgiveness. Until you forgive and forget the hurts and the people that hurt you, you will be stuck. In order to move forward in your life you need to forgive and move forward. Is it easy? Nope, usually not.
Believe me, I know! I grew up with an abusive father; other people and church leaders have abused me. I went through a period of about 7 years so hurt, wounded, stuck and hopeless that I felt paralyzed. I was starting to come out of the extreme hopelessness and seeing light at the end of the tunnel. I was working daily on forgiving those who had wounded me and beginning to trust again. Then along came a punch so hard it threw me into great distrust. Yet another person, a trusted friend, colleague and church leader, wounded our family. But I am happy to say that this time it only took a little over a year for me to be able to start trusting again and walk out of the pain! I’m hoping I get this revelation so deep inside me that the next time I’ll just keep moving!
You have to decide every day to forgive and to let go of the hurt and to let God take care of the situation or other person. When we forgive, we walk into a place of freedom and peace that Jesus bought for us on the cross. All we need to do is step forward and grab this freedom through forgiveness and take our authority against satan and his attacks on our lives.
We could also be blaming God, our lack, the weather, ourselves, and on and on. So many things to blame as we stay stuck in our yuck! We can continue playing the blame game or we can start taking control of our lives with the authority and wisdom God has given us in His Word.
2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV) says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”
Philippians 3:12-16 (Voice translation) says,
I’m not there yet, nor have I become perfect; but I am charging on to gain anything and everything the Anointed One, Jesus, has in store for me–and nothing will stand in my way because He has grabbed me and won’t let me go. Brothers and sisters, as I said, I know I have not arrived; but there’s one thing I am doing: I’m leaving my old life behind, putting everything on the line for this mission. I am sprinting toward the only goal that counts: to cross the line, to win the prize, and to hear God’s call to resurrection life found exclusively in Jesus the Anointed. All of us who are mature ought to think the same way about these matters. If you have a different attitude, then God will reveal this to you as well. For now, let’s hold on to what we have been shown and keep in step with these teachings.
Some people are blaming themselves for past sins or bad decisions and thinking God is punishing them. Totally not true! Repent and turn away and walk in God’s forgiveness. The old is gone and the new has come! Receive this gift that Jesus bought for you on the cross! Don’t discount the blood He shed to pay for this! Forgive yourself and move forward. Don’t look back, look forward.
Colossians 1:12-14 (NKJV), “Giving thanks to the Father who has qualified us to be partakers of the inheritance of the saints in the light. He has delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love, in whom we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins.” Jesus dying on the cross qualified you! What you need to do is accept Him as your savior and the redeemer of your life, then forgive yourself and move forward. You can have every promise in the Bible now that you are God’s kid! You have been adopted into His family and all of His promises belong to you now, not later.
Your life will be what you decide to make it. You can have the life you want and the life God has promised you in His word. Stop blaming where you are at in your life on everything under the sun! Start walking by faith with the Word of God as your guide. Walk in the fruits of the Spirit and take the responsibility for your own life. Take the authority God has given you to stop the enemy from attacking you and lying to you.
Change the blame game to the faith game. Study the Word of God for yourself, find out what God has promised you and go get it by faith. Forgive those who have wounded you, let yourself go free from that bondage. Forgiving those who hurt you does not let them off the hook! They are totally going to have to go before God for what they did. But you don’t have to make that happen, let God deal with them. You just get free! Let it go! (Cue song).
God has so much greatness planned for you no matter what your age. He has more for you. He wants you to experience heaven on earth and to bring heaven to earth for others around you. He wants you to live a powerful and free life full of goodness, love, mercy and abundance. Give it to God! Do it daily until you are free. Praise God for your freedom!